S.O.S: I can't stand my best friend's boyfriend!

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Evelyn Carpenter

She is your best friend, your sister, your confidant, your soul mate, you lack words to describe her. All you want for her is joy and happiness. However, there is a serious problem: you can't stand the man she chose to share the rest of her life with. What should you do? Assuming that you don't want to jeopardize your friendship for anything, then you should act with caution, judgment and maturity.Take note.

Have an honest conversation

Your friend is not stupid and already knows that her future husband is not to your liking. However, you need to sit down with her and explain with arguments that this is not a simple whim. Whether you find him aggressive, you don't like his treatment, you consider him sexist, his humor bothers you, or you distrust his fidelity, among other reasons, tell your friend. Just tell her, clearly and bluntly. Then, she will see.if you decide to go ahead with the marriage plans or turn the things you've told them around.

Don't get involved further

Even if you have the best intentions, you should know your limits. In your role as a friend, you should advise her, but not interfere in her decisions. Therefore, if she is in love and happy to marry the man you can't stand, even if you have warned her about certain behaviors, then there is nothing you can do but respect her decision. Just don't walk away from her.always listen to her and try to be there for her when she needs you.

Give it another chance

As difficult as it may seem to you, reset your mind, forget how bad you like him, the unpleasant moments and make the effort to get to know your friend's boyfriend from scratch. Give him this second chance and who knows if you'll be pleasantly surprised. But leave behind the past, the prejudices and everything that could interfere in your new relationship with him. Do it for your friend and if he really loves her, then do it for her.respects and cares for her, it shouldn't matter if he's a bit of a clown, self-centered or immature.

Plan a different scenario

If you're trying to get along better with your future spouse's future husband or wife, you're partner If he is the person that your soul sister has chosen, then one option is to organize a fun outing with the whole group of friends. For example, a trip to the beach where you can share with him in another instance. Perhaps in a more relaxed context you will be able to rescue some positive things about him. If he is the person that your soul sister has chosen, he must have more than one good thing.

Avoid it as much as possible

If you have definitely given them your reasons why you don't like her future husband, but she doesn't take you into account, the best thing you can do then is to try to share as little as possible with him. Try not to run into him and plan meetings with your friend in places where you know he won't be, or won't arrive. This way you won't lose your friend, nor will you have to spend unpleasant moments with aperson whose presence bothers you.

Rule out jealousy as an option

Although at first they will all say no, it is normal for women to be jealous of their best friend's boyfriend. Even more so if she is getting married and her priorities are now focused on her husband. You will no longer have your partner available 24 hours a day and this may unconsciously cause you to dislike her partner. Or if you are single, you will think that you are going to be alone. If this is the case,ground the situation and be clear that no one is going to take your friend away from you.

Evelyn Carpenter is the author of the best-selling book, All you need for your marriage. A Marriage guide. She has been married for over 25 years and has helped countless couples build successful marriages. Evelyn is a sought after speaker and relationship expert, and has been featured in various media outlets including Fox News, Huffington Post, and more.