Once the wedding rings have been exchanged, a couple needs independence, privacy and autonomy to start their new married life, but this is not always possible, at least temporarily, which leads to having to share a roof over their heads with the groom's parents or the bride's parents.

It's a complex scenario, since it's very different to go out with your mother-in-law to look at wedding dresses or ask her for advice on wedding tapes than to share chores and full time at home. However, it is possible to maintain a peaceful coexistence if everyone does their part. Discover the keys to achieve it, below.

Do not invade their space

Since it will be you who will be arriving at your in-laws' house, you should do so with humility, tolerance and always respecting their space. So, for example, it wouldn't be right to arrive demanding the largest room if it's already occupied by the homeowners. Also, if you want to make any changes, such as installing a piece of furniture to display your wedding glasses and other wedding favors, you should consult with them first.

Adapt to your standards

It doesn't mean that they have to change their lifestyle, but it does mean that they have to respect the rules of coexistence established by your in-laws Just as you respected their opinion when choosing the theme, wedding decorations and the banquet, you must respect their rules.

Now, it is also important to coordinate schedules among all of us especially the showers in the morning so that no one falls behind in their respective duties.

Dividing expenses

Although it is usually due to economic factors, living in the in-laws' home should not be synonymous with profiteering, nor should living for free. Therefore, as far as your financial situation allows, you should try to divide the expenses equally or at least, to collaborate in whatever way they can Even more so if the in-laws have already helped them in an important way in the marriage, giving them, for example, the gold rings with which they said "yes".

Setting limits

In terms of the couple's relationship, and even if they have children, they need to make their in-laws understand that there are certain issues on which it is better to separate waters For example, when it comes to raising children, having their grandparents around will be very beneficial for the little ones, but they should make it clear that the rules are set by the parents, always by presenting their arguments in the framework of a respectful dialogue In fact, maintaining good communication is fundamental to coexistence in general.

Establishing rituals

Another idea to strengthen the bond is to create certain instances in which you can all share together either by getting together at dinner time or setting aside a few Saturdays a month for an entertaining outing. In this way, they will be treasuring moments and experiences that they will remember with longing in the future, like when the in-laws arrived with the wedding cake as a surprise gift.

Be cautious

If so, try not to air the conflicts you have with your in-laws. Otherwise, the problem could grow even bigger if it becomes a rumor that everyone feels entitled to say. In that sense, it is best to be prudent and keep your privacy within four walls. The ideal is, before any conflict arises, to talk first with the couple and then resolve the issue with the in-laws in the most civilized way.

Just as they helped you with the wedding decorations or financing the honeymoon, the in-laws will always be there to help you with everything. Therefore, the ideal is to maintain a pleasant coexistence with them; while, as a couple, you can cultivate an intimate space to connect, without losing the habit of dedicating beautiful phrases of love to each other when you wake up.