8 questions you should consider before you get married: Are you ready?

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Evelyn Carpenter

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Being engaged does not guarantee the success of a relationship if you don't really know who you have next to you. That's why, before you get excited about going through wedding dress catalogs or looking at all the details of the organization of the marriage, it is very important that you take some time to talk about some points and clarify certain transcendental concepts for your future as a married couple. Take noteof the following questions that must be asked before getting married.

1. What are our life projects?

Just because you both want to get married doesn't mean that have the same objectives Because it is possible that one dreams of traveling the world, while the other wants to stabilize and raise a family. Or that the priority is the professional career and professionalizing, and the family takes second place. That is why it is so essential to discuss what you both expect from life and how you want to live it. Do it now and do not wait to say the famous phrase "it isthat if I had known...".

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2. How will we handle finances?

It is essential that know if they are compatible Because if one saves and the other spends, the partnership will clearly be a failure. You should also talk about spending on your own whims, how much salary each will contribute to the household And this will also be decisive when it comes to planning the marriage, because if one person wants a simple ceremony with few guests and the other wants to go all out, it will cost them a world to reach a consensus and that will not be the best starting point.

3. Do we want to have children?

It is essential to know if you both want to have children Because if one of the two parties wants to postpone motherhood/paternity for the sake of their profession, but their partner wants to immediately after marriage, this situation will undoubtedly generate friction that it is better to anticipate. Now, in the case that one wants to have children and the other does not, the picture becomes even more complicated because, if they are still together, one of them will have to have children immediately after marriage.Talking ahead of time and being clear about your views is essential.

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4. What if we can't have children?

It is advisable to to overcome a possible scenario Would they undergo fertility treatment, would they be willing to adopt, would it be a reason to separate? Everyone reacts differently to situations like this, so it's certainly an issue that shouldn't be overlooked.

5. How close will we be to our parents?

Although it is not usual, there are people who never cut the cord, which often ends up destroying marriages. For example, people who do not make decisions without first consulting their mother or who do not spend a weekend without visiting their parents. It is not about hindering the family ties of the other, but rather about prioritize and to know where everyone is Otherwise, the issue can become a big conflict in the future.

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6. What do we understand by infidelity?

They must line the court and clarify concepts that may generate conflicts in the future While most people understand infidelity as having a parallel relationship or casual sexual encounters with another person, there are those who agree to try other types of more open relationships. What is the most comfortable for you as a couple?

7. Are we tolerant in politics and religion?

Religious and political convictions should be discussed beforehand If they are going to have children, they should also consider how they will handle the religious and value education of the children.

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8. What are our addictions?

There are those who are inclined, to a greater or lesser extent, to smoking, gambling, alcohol, work, sport, parties or food, among other possible addictions. Therefore, it is essential to detect if that recurring habit makes you uncomfortable Or, on the contrary, if it is feasible to deal with it. The worst case scenario? Getting married with the intention of changing someone, as it can be wearing to begin with.

Now you know that before getting excited about marriage preparations, it is essential that you fully know the person with whom you intend to share the rest of your lives. And as obvious as the questions mentioned above may seem, the truth is that having a mature and sincere conversation will help you face the future with more wisdom and tenacity.

Evelyn Carpenter is the author of the best-selling book, All you need for your marriage. A Marriage guide. She has been married for over 25 years and has helped countless couples build successful marriages. Evelyn is a sought after speaker and relationship expert, and has been featured in various media outlets including Fox News, Huffington Post, and more.